Here is Trish’s story on how emotional cheating affected her life and her future.

“My husband was involved with another woman right in front of me. Some would say that I was lucky to have it happen in front of me since even though some women suspect cheating, they can’t get their husbands to admit to it. In a way that’s true, except in my case, he still never came clean.

She was a friend of both of us, but not close. Besides being around more and more, I noticed that his personality would change around her. The change was gradual until it became blatant that only she existed. The two began to talk more and their actions became more animated and excited as they became totally absorbed in “their” conversations. I call it sexually charged.

Next thing I knew, everything became all about her – what she liked, how she spent her free time and what she thought about just about everything.

I mentioned to my husband that it seemed to me that he was becoming a little bit too friendly and personal with his “new friend”.  That’s where my nightmare began.  He told me I was insecure and jealous – both traits are not part of my personality.

I think at this point because I made such a fuss about it and insisted he back off his relationship with her, that they went underground. I can’t say what happened between the two of them.  I made it clear that if he wanted to continue being friends with her, I had choices too. All I asked was that he let me know.

He never mentioned her again. I suspect their communication broke off a few months later. For the most part he went back to being himself except for his rude and frequent cutting comments to me. I think he still thinks he’s innocent and I’m responsible for ruining his perfectly friendly relationship with another woman.

It’s been 3 years now and our marriage seems pretty normal whatever that means. I’m aware that he no longer is my rock and that I have changed.

I’ve seen a side of my husband that I would give anything to not have seen. His betrayal has made me aware that where we are today is not a reflection of what could happen tomorrow.  Anything can change in a relationship – no guarantees.

All I can say is that I wish it never happened.”

Trish D