When Austin’s voice from the rock band Hinder boomed out “my girlfriend’s in the next room….” many stopped dead in their tracts. The lyrics of “Lips of an Angel” were so captivating, enticing you to listen to the whole song just to figure out what happens.

Certainly the lyrics rang true for many. There were those who related to the girlfriend, the other woman, the other women’ partner or Austin himself. If you didn’t feel like you were one of the four way split, perhaps you just had this overall feeling sinking feeling. I did.

All these emotions generated because everyone knows that some kind of cheating is going on. Even though there is no mention of an affair just look at the title. Usually songs center on the person being cheated on. What makes this song so striking is that the it’s about the one cheating. Rather than remorse, he wants to comfort his mistress.

Austin sometimes wishes the other woman was his girlfriend, he dreams about her, he’s on the phone being secretive, he asks if there will be a fight. And let’s not forget that the other woman has “lips of an angel”.

Clearly infidelity is at the root here whether sex is involved or not, albeit there is a kiss involved. Let’s call this what it actually is, emotional infidelity. He is strongly connected, if not obsessed, by this other women.

Classic signs of cheating will soon be obvious and glaring to everyone, except perhaps Austin’s girlfriend. Eventually, she will experience a niggle of suspicion. Knowing the signs of cheating would help her to know that it isn’t her imagination. Her next step is to confirm her suspicions. It’s easy to see everything when you’re not personally involved. When it comes to our heart and emotions, our minds can play some wicked tricks on us.

The song leaves us hanging. Things are in a state of confusion and entanglement. If the situation continued, the outcome will be devastating to any one of the four involved.

I asked myself,  like many people, the age old question “If he feels this way about another women, why not leave the one he is with instead of being deceitful?”.

This is such a complex question and so elusive. In this case we have two couples.

What we don’t know is:

Why the two started the affair?
What’s going on in his relationship?
What’s going on in her relationship?
What’s at stake in either relationship if they break up?
Are they prepared to lose their “partners”
Is the affair too new to take any risks?

Does any of this feel close to home?

If it does, start asking yourself some tough questions and make some tough decisions. Plan your next move. Know what signs of cheating lead you to believe there is infidelity in your relationship. Then confirm if indeed this is the case. If you don’t get some clarity about your situation you may not have any control over the outcome. You will go along for the ride and decisions will be made for you.

Austin’s girlfriend would do well to open her eyes, see the signs of cheating and seek a course of action to help her with the best possible solution to move forward in her life.

P.S. If you are curious about the lyrics in the song click  Lips of An Angel to watch the video on youtube.com.  Come back and add your comment to this post.