Regardless if New Years is purported to be a great time for reflection of the past year and the time to make promises to yourself of what you’ll do in the upcoming year, I prefer to think about house cleaning.

Not the get-out-your-vacuum-cleaner variety. I’m talking about cleaning up the things you wanted to do last year but didn’t get around to it for one reason or another. Maybe something stood in your way, or you were afraid to tackle it or the task was just too overwhelming to even start.

A friend advised me to “clean house” when I initially suspected my first husband of cheating. The expression meant that I had an unpleasant job to do, it wasn’t going away, it was only going to get worse and it was up to me to get it done.

If you found yourself wondering about your husband’s loyalty and didn’t do anything about it, perhaps now is the time to get cleaning.

With the chillier winds blowing and the sun setting early, what better time is there than now to reflect on the shape of your marriage and take action on what you’ve been mulling over.

When suspicions linger, so do the plethora of emotions and their side affects. At times it seems easier push it all under the rug. After all, who likes to vacuum?

But, we know that avoidance creates more problems, from mental and physical health issues to family and work issues. Suspecting infidelity in your marriage takes its toll.

Once I cleaned up my house, I could get on with other things and I actually felt and functioned better.  I can guarantee that even if it’s no fun, the sooner you take action the sooner you will be able to move forward too.

Get out the Hoover, girl.

P.S. To relive a little stress, don’t’ forget to take care of yourself and seek support along the way.